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Put Your Hands Up

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I have a beautiful 12-year-old daughter who looks as if she’s going on 19.  I don’t know what happened, but it’s like I went to sleep one night with a baby girl by my side and the very next morning I woke up to a young lady who is madly in love with Justin Bieber, obsessed with what to wear and could never have enough colors of nail polish.  Now all of a sudden I find myself in panic mode to make sure she knows “enough” about Jesus and that her identity is completely emerged in Christ and not in any way shape or form what others say about who she is.  In my typical control freak nature, I’ve tried to have conversations (more like manipulations) with her to clarify who she really is and what she really believes.

So just last week I said, “Meg who do you think healed me from cancer?” and with a dumb founded expression she rolled her eyes and said “duh Mom, Jesus!”  I have to admit I felt pretty stupid and yet a burst of relief all at the same time.  That’s when I realized again we do not have to push our beliefs on others, but to simply allow others to observe our lives and decide for themselves.

As a Women’s Christian Life Coach, I have many clients that have husbands or loved ones that are not followers of Christ and they struggle with holding their tongue and waiting patiently for God to move in their lives.  But what I’ve recently learned in scripture is that “Often we look for God’s glorious acts without concern for following his instructions” NIV Study Bible.  My point being is that we must continue every day to patiently TRUST God in a posture of obedience with our lives.   What does that look like for you?  For me personally it starts with meeting the Lord on my knees in the early morning hours or putting my hands up to praise Him in worship.  It’s funny how our postures show exactly what we are feeling internally.  I would like to encourage you the next time you meet with God to notice how you are approaching His throne.  Does your posture reflect His instructions for your life?  Does it show the ultimate love you want so desperately for others to believe?

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Embarrassing Confession

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Welcome to CA…Controllers Anonymous.  Hi, my name is Linda Kuhar and I am a control freak!  While you may be chuckling at my cute little comment, I need to confess to you that because of my insane controlling nature of 38 years, this week it has actually brought me to my knees in desperation asking God, “Do you REALLY exist?  Because God if you are really REAL than why do I struggle today with the exact same issues I had 10 years ago, 15 years ago, heck even 20 years ago?  If you’re real, than why haven’t you removed the pains of insecurity and fear I have buried so deep inside me?”

And in one simple answer He spoke….”Control, you haven’t give me control over your life.”

Well, in my typical controlling fashion I would usually explain to God why I haven’t given everything to Him and try to manipulate God by convincing Him (really myself) that I am the way I am because ultimately He is the one that created me, right?  Well, this time my scheming and conniving ways did not even rear it’s ugly head.  Instead, I was at the darkest place of desperation and brokenness that all I could do was say ok God.  You are exactly right.  I have been afraid to give you control over my life because fear and insecurity have been such a source of comfort and refuge for me, but today I give up, I quit!  I cannot do this control thing any more.  I have no strength left in me to fight!

I quit trying to control those I love so dearly, my husband and child, my business/ministry that you called me to and even..are you ready for this my friends?  I give up control over my healing from cancer and coma.  Yes, it’s true.  I’m confessing to you that I’ve struggled all this time truly believing that I was miraculously healed.  I’m completely embarrassed and feel like such a hypocrite as I write these words.  But the truth is I’ve tried to convince myself that I was healed from H1N1 (the swine flu) and not a reaction from the chemotherapy drugs because logically my lungs would have never completely healed if it was the chemo that my body had the reaction to.

Long story short is, it does not matter what God healed me from, He miraculously healed me and today I can honestly say I believe that because I have Let. It. Go. by giving up control.

Friends, are you living a life of control?  Or are you really letting God control your life?  I’m currently participating in Melissa Taylor’s Online Bible Study and we are studying  Let. It. Go. by Karen Ehman.  If you want to know how to stop running the show and start walking in faith, living a life free from control, I recommend reading her book today.  As you can see I personally have already experienced some life changing transformation and would love for you to join me.  Leave a commit today if you are living a life of control and are ready Let. It. Go.

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