How to turn that frown upside down in 5 minutes or less

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Over the past few weeks, I’ve tried a little experiment that literally turned my frowns upside down within minutes.

Every time I found myself feeling a little discouraged in my day, I intentionally stopped what I was doing, reached for my phone and called someone to lift them up.

Most of the time I would get a voicemail, but instead of hanging up I left them a heartfelt message encouraging them and flattering them with oodles of love.

I was AMAZED at the results!

I immediately felt like a brand new person!

I felt happy, hopeful, and down right ECSTATIC!!

Will you try this experiment today? Leave a comment below and let me know how it works for you.

I currently have a waiting list, however I have a few appointments opening up in late April. I want to encourage you that there is hope and a new way of life through Christian coaching. ((hugs))

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What’s your red flag telling you?

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Do you ever find yourself doing one thing but deep down inside you really can’t stand what you’re doing?

For example, eating junk food when you know you need to lose weight to get into your summer clothes or giving advice when you know you really just need to keep quiet and listen.

When I find myself in these wishy-washy emotions that’s a big red flag for me!

My life has the potential to spiral quickly into unhealthy places, physically, mentally and spiritually.

And I don’t know about you, but for me when my life is out of balance watch out world because I become a hot mess!

So what can we do to keep our sanity so that we don’t become a hot mess?

How can we consistently live the life we really want to live? You know the life that is full of the fruits of the spirit…love, peace, joy, patience, kindness, gentleness and self-control.

For starters, get rid of the idea that we will ever do anything perfectly or exactly as planned because that’s just not reality. No matter what we plan, every single day will guarantee us a curve ball to throw us off-balance.

Secondly it’s quite simple, Just Show Up.

That’s it.

All we really have to do is simply seek God each and every day and He will do the rest. He will provide all the sanity and balance we could ever wish for.

Matthew 7:7-8 Jesus says, “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.”

It takes one simple action, one simple effort on our part.

Just Show Up.

When we do our part and pursue the Lord, He will do the rest. Life as you know it will transform into a steady consistent balance without all the chaos.

How different will your life be when you Just Show Up? Leave a comment below.

I currently have a waiting list, however I have a few appointments opening up in late April. I want to encourage you that there is hope and a new way of life through Christian coaching. ((hugs))

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Linda Kuhar is a Certified Christian Life Coach, Board Certified Life Coach, Certified Human Behavior Consultant, Writer, Speaker, and Mentor. Click here to learn more about coaching with Linda & frequently asked questions about the coaching experience.

How 3 Words Changed My Life

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For years, I felt heavy, as if I was wearing one of those vests they put on you at the dentist office when they take x-rays. Pressure weighed me down.

I couldn’t figure out why in the heck life was so hard for me.

Have you ever felt like you were struggling to make it through the day?

I know I have.

Many, many times I’ve fought off depression, anxiety, fear, doubt, worry, insecurity and the next thing I knew, I’d be drowning in hopelessness.

As “Christians” sometimes we end up feeling like we’re defective or flawed because we aren’t like all the other Christians that seem to have it all together. We feel like why in the heck is this “Christian” thing not working for me like it is for those other people we see plastered all over social media?

One night, about a year ago I woke up from a dead sleep and found the answer to why I had been anxiously struggling with my life.

Three little words came to my mind, JUST LIVE TODAY.

You would think after cancer, chemotherapy, life support, being faced with never walking or breathing again on my own that I would have really understood the concept of living one day at a time. I mean out of all people, someone who’s kissed the face of death and has this incredible second chance at life, surely I lived life to it’s fullest, cherishing every moment, every breath?

Nope! I did not. Not at all!!

You might be scratching your head and asking me why, right about now? The reason why is because in my mind I lived in the past consumed with regret, fear, sorrow or I live in the future of what if’s.

My mind was like a marry-go-round, spinning round and round in the past or the future. It never stopped to rest in the present. 

Once I began to truly Just Live Today by intentionally disciplining myself to keep my mind focused only on the 24-hours at hand, I felt light, free, almost as if I could truly breath again. It was not easy work, but you know the old saying practice pays off.

How about you? Where does your mind stay? Does the past consume you? Does the future taunt you? Does the present scare you?

What would your life look like if you simply stopped the marry-go-round in your mind and JUST LIVE TODAY?

I would love to hear from you in the comments below.

If you are struggling with the inability to just live today, contact me for coaching. I currently have a waiting list, however I have a few appointments opening up in mid April. I want to encourage you that there is hope and a new way of life. ((hugs))

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Just a note…

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I wanted to let you know that I’m currently working on some new projects and will be posting sporadically for a short time.

We are snowed in here and I’m loving this down time snuggling up by the fire with my dogs.

Hope you all are doing well and enjoying the winter.  ((hugs))

 

I’m not alone in this…

What words of encouragement do you need to hear when you’re having a bad day?

What I would like to hear is, it’s ok to eat that candy bar or pizza, but really that’s not going to help me.

The words I really need to hear are words of compassion, not only from someone else, but from myself. Words like, you’re not alone in this, everyone struggles, or would you consider offering yourself some compassion in this moment?

This month I’m focusing on self-compassion on my blog. After asking my friends on Facebook on a scale from 1 – 10 how hard are you on yourself? 10 being extremely hard, the response I received was incredible. Everyone is so hard on themselves. Friends, we are not alone in this.

I invite you on my blog and to follow me on social media at #mycompassioncoach as we learn and practice self-compassion together. Will you join me?

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Join me over at Holley Gerth’s blog hop Wednesday and be sure to check out her newly released book You’re Going to Be Okay. Her words are a gift!

And the WINNER is….

The WINNER for the $100 Visa Gift Card Giveaway is Carol Bruntlett!!

Thank you all for your participation this month as we live, share and love with courage! I’m excited for next month! I will have a special focus and another giveaway!!

Big (((hugs))) I love you!!!

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A Sweet Place of Breakthrough

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If I could reach through the computer screen I’d give you the biggest (((HUG))) and thank you for joining me on this inspiring journey of practicing COURAGE this month!

As I was sitting at my desk thinking about writing today’s post, I looked down and noticed my art journal I’ve been using for an online class I’m taking with Brene Brown. (Side note: I love her and all of her books!)

I couldn’t help myself, I have to share with you one of the coolest things I think I’ve done in quite some time.

One afternoon a few weeks ago, I was a little fidgety and I had this sense that I really wanted to do something fun, like create, paint or draw…

Because I’m not artistic in that way, like my daughter, I usually ignore those fleeting thoughts and do something “more productive”. You know like cleaning out my kitchen cabinets, folding laundry, vacuuming the floors, grocery shopping. I mean who has time to sit around and create a useless piece of art when so many things have to get done?

However, because of all this COURAGE talk we’ve had going on this month, I took a deep breath and thought to myself, Linda, this is an opportunity to practice courage. Are you going to do it?

And then I felt that uncomfortable feeling in the pit of my stomach.

A siren went off in my head.

COURAGE ALERT! COURAGE ALERT! MUST ACT NOW!!

In that moment, I made an intentional decision and pushed through the resistance. I was brave. I asked my husband and daughter if they would like to join me in the dining room to create something. I had no agenda; I just wanted to use my watercolors, markers and journal.

And to my surprise, they both curiously looked at me and nodded their heads yes!

The three of us gathered around the table and spent about half an hour or so randomly creating things. I loved being with my family doing something creative. The only time we ever do this kind of thing is on a half-to basis, like school projects.

You want to know the absolute best part about this?

The way it made me feel!

I felt HAPPY…. ALIVE…FULL…. PEACEFUL…. CONTENT.

Looking back, I believe that was the day COURAGE led me to a sweet place of breakthrough.

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Will you take a moment to reflect and share with me the last time you chose courage? Leave a comment below.

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You are not alone…

We are the most connected world yet the most isolated because of social media.

It’s hard to have that personal intimate connection when you meet over the internet, unlike meeting with someone face-to-face.

In my quiet time this morning I was reading Matthew 28:20 “And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” This scripture brings me so much comfort to know whenever I’m feeling alone, Christ is with me, the Holy Spirit is always with me and I am never alone.

We’ve been talking about courage all month and I have to say it takes COURAGE to truly believe the word of God. I want to encourage you to spend some time with scripture and connect with God today. I love hearing from you! Leave a comment below.

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The 5 Letter Word…we all feel.

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Shame.

I’ve wrestled with this word my entire life. I’ve tried to run away from it, but to no avail I sink in the slimy pit of this five-letter word desperately fighting my way out.

Shame suffocates.

Shame blames.

Shame cuts like a knife.

Shame isolates.

Shame feels like hell on earth.

There’s no way around it. We all feel shame. It’s part of who we are. It began in the garden with Adam and Eve. Do you remember their first response to God after they ate from the forbidden tree?

They hid! They felt shame.

We are not alone in this human emotion. Everybody has it. We all face it over and over every single day.

After so many years of avoiding the topic of shame, I finally came to terms with how much I’ve suffered from it. I decided I was sick and tired of the struggle, so I faced it head on. Dealing with it has literally transformed my life.

A while ago, I stepped out in faith and connected with a group of women to discuss shame. I learned very quickly that I’m not alone in my struggles.

I became EMPOWERED from making one intentional decision to connect with others instead of hiding. This snowballed into making more intentional decisions such as allowing myself to feel when I am hurt, instead of reaching for a box of cookies. Just the other day, when I was feeling discouraged I picked up the phone and scheduled a massage.

It is a very rare that I take the time for such luxury and pampering as a massage. As I’ve been learning exactly what it means to be courageous it’s rearranging my entire outlook on life. It’s empowering.

I want to challenge you today to step into courage with me. Be intentional. What can you do for yourself today that you’ve desperately needed for quite some time?

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You’re beautiful…just as you are.

Recently after taking a self-compassion survey, I have to admit I was a little disappointed. I realized how hard I am on myself and how little compassion I show myself.

We are all beautiful just the way we are. I am beautiful just the way I am.

yourbeautifulIn this picture as a young girl, I really had no self-compassion or any concept of it. I remember always feeling not good enough.

At 39-years-old I’m becoming very aware of how important self-compassion is.

Will you courageously join me in self-compassion and comment on my blog. Tell me what makes you beautiful?

I’ll go first, one thing that makes me beautiful is having a heart that wants to show love to others and also to myself. I cannot wait to hear from the beautiful YOU! I’m posting on Holley Gerth’s blog hop today, click here to check it out!

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REMEMBER $100 Visa Gift Card Giveaway this month. Every time you Like, Comment or Share on social media using #mycouragecoach you will be entered to win $100!

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Linda Kuhar is a Certified Christian Life Coach, Board Certified Life Coach, Certified Human Behavior Consultant, Writer, Speaker, and Mentor. Click here to learn more about coaching with Linda & frequently asked questions about the coaching experience.